Useful Wisdoms For Simple Living

 Have you ever loved yourself? What is your answer if some one asks you this question? When a person who is narrow minded, only see himself as the focus point and self centered. and yet still need to face the reality of the world and the practicality of the society. He will not be able to accept it that he is not the center of the universe, slowly he will think the whole world is against him, and start blaming all the disappointments he is facing and the failures on some one else. As times go on, he will not even be able to get the love he is longing for,  With the fragile emotion he is experiencing, if his mental state does not collapse, he will be a bit lucky. At this juncture, he should ask himself whether he loves himself or not. Facing the adverse now, he should look inward and ask himself whether he can love himself or not. To love himself, he has to look inward and understand the inner self deeply. If you can not love your own self, how do you expect others to love you?...

 Those who can suffer losses are bound to be well-liked, and those who are well-liked naturally have many opportunities. This may sound a bit weird, what it means is, if a person does not mind to lose a bit, instead of insisting gaining every time, he is very popular. People in general will favor those who are not that petty, and who does not mind to give in. There are people who like to take advantage of others,  or even want to gain some small favor, at the end of the day, he may find out actually he loses more than the small gain he has. Those who think they are very capable, jus because they know how to take advantage to have some small gain, will find eventually they have the gain, not because they are smart, it is rather others do not bother to fight over the petty issue. To narrow minded people, every thing is a big deal, so they will fight for it despite the fact that it is not worth the hassle.  For a person who is self centered, sooner or later, other things wil...

 Does it occur to you that every thing seems to be against you? Whatever you do , do not seem to come to perfect conclusion, there is always something making the whole thing very awkward. At night, sometimes we feel very tire and hopeless, why? it is all in the mind and heart, we feel tire especially in our heart, and during this COVID-19 pandemic times, the situation makes it even more tiring and endless problem. Every one will feel the challenges of life and how to get through all these and wonder we have a future or not. We will always feel dissatisfied and have a feeling that we could have done better. Sometimes we feel very agitated and restless with all the disruption in life and the no so smooth daily life we are living in, feeling lousy and meaningless. When facing this type of life,  we may feel sad and disappointed, a lot of times, we have tried our best,  but the end result is not what we are looking forward to. We meet some one , but we do not feel happy, even...

 Do what you need to do and not what you like to do. Does this sound very familiar with you? In our life, be it in our working life, school life or even in our own home, what do we do when we come to choose the work to be done? Most of the time, we do what we like to do and not what we need to do. Well, some may not agree, it all depends on the situation and circumstance perhaps. But when you have a choice, do you do what you like to do or do what you need to do? Willfulness is the biggest enemy of business. As we grow older, we should be able to learn how to become more mature and more understanding instead of obstinately believing in our own way. Control our emotion and anger, be more understanding, learn how to give way to others and accepting others point of views. It is alright to agree with disagreement, no one has a perfect answer to everything. There is no right or wrong in our daily life happening, it is all just an opinion held by us. Our point of view, does it matter? it...

  The saying of the amount of the effort you put in, you will reap the amounts you put in. Do not envy others, be it their achievement, their income and their wealth, why? Because we know for those who have what they have today, mainly the results of the efforts they have put to get into where they are now today. They have put in their share of hard work, in their daily life when they are putting the hard work, they do not envy other people freedom and care free attitude, while others are enjoying themselves, he has to work hard to earn his living. Every thing comes at a cost, whether it is wealth, career and freedom, there is a price to pay to achieve that. If you want to have good wealth, you need to put in the effort, and the price you pay for is to give up the time to enjoy yourself but to work for wealth. Likewise, if you want to have a good career, you have to work for it, do not expect good fortune will fall down from the sky. Therefore, there is no need to envy and feel jea...

 We face all sorts of troubles every day, if you do not take heart to it, naturally you will be fine. If we can keep a good heart, do good deed, we will have no regret in our life. We can maintain a normal mood, and treat things in a normal way, we will have a peaceful mind day and night. If we try to analyze everything that happens around us, and feel offended with it, we will feel very miserable and restless. Be grateful to those who do good to you, and do not take heart of the bad things done by others to you,  Don't think about people's grievances, don't care about people's complaints, don't forget people's kindness, don't think about people's faults. Have a good heart, the cloudy  will be scattered, if you can give way to people, the sky will be cleared. if we have a forgiving heart, any misunderstanding will be cleared, and if we can give way instead of insisting on we are right, we will see a clearer path ahead. it is fated that we meet each other...

 Sometimes we come across this - Sorry, I am not able to do it. Is it an excuse for not wanting to do? Or is it just a polite way to reject some one seeking help from you? This can also apply to ourselves when we are facing some problems and somehow do not manage to solve the problem. We will give the reason that - I am not able to do it. We let our emotion take over and avoid solving the problem. IF we happen to encounter failure and some disappointments in our daily life or even working life,  and we decide to shut down, not interacting with others, our lives will become more miserable. A little bit of failure already make us give up, that is a bad thing to do, worse if we decide to blame others and shut out others from our life and become isolated, we will not able to solve the problem we faced. On the contrary, to solve problem sometimes, it is better to interact more with others, by having conversation with others, it may trigger your thought and some useful tips may come...

 A lot of people in their whole life, seem to have put in a lot of hard work, but do not seem to have the reward they were expecting. Well, there is a saying that, if you follow the trend, you will reap the results of your work more than the efforts you put. Meaning, if in your whole life, you seem to work hard but the results are not forthcoming, and the wealth seem to be a far distance away from you, the more you put in the work. That shows your direction is not correct, perhaps you may want to change course and choose a different way to put in your effort. Most of the time, if you follow the trend, you will notice the reward is twice as much as the effort you put in. Why need to reinvent wheel when you can follow the trend and just need to improvise a bit to make it better. We notice sometimes, it is not because the person is smart, all he does is to follow the creation done but improve on it. Still disagree? Well, take a look at the latest technology, do you think people care a...

 Do not forget the one who give you the opportunity. in idiom, people like to say- always remember the one who give you the umbrella when it rains. Every day we encounter all sorts of happening, some sad, some happy and some incredible and unforgettable.  When you first just step into the society an start your working life, you are starting at the bottom an climb your way up the ladder. One thing we nee to remember is - after all these years in your career an what you have achieve, have you ever recalled how did you get there in the first? If no one gave you the break, do you think you still can achieve what you have done? The fact that the first person who decided to hire you after finishing your schooling, that  was a big break. Do you still remember that person who hired you and set you up for the destiny and path you had gone through? Without that person's guidance, I wonder you are still able to find the door to come in or not. Even if he might have done something wh...

 It is a kind of joy to understand others, and it is a kind of happiness to be understood by others. I got this quote from some one, and was trying to understand the meaning of it. For a while, i did not really understand it, then after experiencing it and reflecting it on what I have gone through, it became clearer. A lot of people like to brag how many friends they have, but true friends,? how many can you count with your fingers? A lot like to say how many friends they have, just look at their Facebook account, how many friends they have. I always ask - Really? You may have a lot as indicated in your Facebook profile showed, but how many will really be there when you really need them? Do they turn up when you really need them or you will be hearing excuses like sorry, i am busy with dateline and so on. So you do not need to have so many friends, the important thing is - will they be there when you need them?  Ask Ukraine, they can tell you better. It does not matter how lon...

 Some people remember that it is happiness Is it true, if there is some one who remember you, to you, it is happiness? There are some people who can talk on all sorts of topics, until there is nothing else to talk about. Serendipity or fate, from the time one meets the other until one day going separate way, how many times this happens? Most of the time, we do not seem to care whether the extent of the friendship is built based on the distance of us, the warmness of a person is always subject to illusion and changes. Friends become strangers, and the strangers have gone to a far away place. To us, if the person is around, then the friendship is still there, however, on the other hand, out of sight out of mind. Does this sound familiar to you? Chinese saying once the person has left, the tea also become cold. Between people, it all depends on one heart, and between love and affection, it is all about an inch of truth. IF we have some people to care about, no matter how far the road ...

 A lot of people seem to have the impression when they reach the peak, it is to let the world what he has achieved,  On the contrary, when you reach the peak, it is to let you see the world and reflect on what you have gone through to reach the peak. Whether you have learned anything in reaching the peak, the hard work and effort you have put in, the obstacle you have to overcome, whether all these you have experience in your journey worth the efforts or not. The real happiness is not only by reaching the peak, more so on the efforts you made and the growing up in achieving the objective. Success is not chasing after the target, it is through the efforts, you gain the confident, responsibilities, commitment and the courage, these are things which are valuable and will stay with you for a long time. A person who has tried his best and achieved his target will have a long lasting happiness and continued prosperity. He can always tell people that he has been there, seen that and ...

 How do one value his value to the society, or more specific to his circle of friends and colleagues? A lot of people think time will determine how valuable a person contribution to the group, the organization or the country. Times will help us in solving the problems we are facing? People like to say , in due time, we will get over it and solve the problems. The actual fact and the sad truth is , over the length of times, it can not help us in settling any problems at all,  On the contrary, over times, since we are not able to solve the problems we faced then, over times, it did not seem that important any more. After all, all these times, nothing happen even though the problem is still there, so it does not matter anymore. When we are young, and still have the enthusiasm and spirit to fight and overcome obstacle, we should not be lazy, instead we should tackle head on any obstacles life throw at us. By doing so, at the end of the day, when we reflected on what we have gone t...

 Have you ever lost something, then only then you realize it is so valuable to you? Something you lost it forever, then only you realize how precious and valuable it was, but it is too late to regret now. When we were young, we did not know and understand, we just took it for granted. When we reached middle age, we were reluctant to let go and trying our best to hang on to it. Life is short and hard most of the time,  whatever happens happens , there is no way we can stop and prevent it, whatever is lost is lost, there is no way we can keep it. In the process of this, when we are growing up, we encountered various occasions of having and losing something every now and then, if in the process, we had tried our best, nurture it and learned from it, that was the main objective, how much we gained from our experience is not the only barometer which we used to judge whether we are a success or failure. The most important thing we learned from this life experience, the minor details...

 You should love living your life fully, do not feel depressed with the suffering you are facing, and look beyond any grievances you have experienced. It is easier said than done, but we need to try to live our life in a happy and jovial manner. A person is happy and full of life, not because he has a lot, be it monetary and others, it is because he does not take heart of what he experienced. One who has optimistic attitude is because he is very forgiving, understand human relation better, does not have any petty thinking, always having good heart. No one is perfect, if you can understand this, and accept the fact that one needs to learn from mistake, and every one makes mistakes, and every one offend others at any one time, knowingly or unknowingly, intentionally or unintentionally. if you don't get offended, and accept that and move on, you will realize, no need to dwell on this, after all it does not cost you a life, it is not a live or die matter, no need to let this affect you...

 Do you feel upset and sad when some one ignore you, or do not pay much attention to you as you expect? Well, no need to feel upset or sad, if no one pays attention to you. Every one  has his own life to live with, no one can keep you company all his life. I don't think you want some one to be with you all the while, there must be some space for you to be alone. The most embarrassing thing is you over estimate yourself in other people's eyes. You may think you are highly regarded, however, the reality may be painful when you find out. You have tried your best, appreciate the companionship, have no regret with the outcome. For the rest, leave it to fate, there is nothing you can do about it. Relationship between two persons very much depend on friendship and fate, you appreciate it and i will reciprocate , you do not appreciate it, why should I bother about it? I always believe in - what you do is none of my business, what you think of me is none of my business, likewise, what ...

 There is a saying - work hard for your self, you will be surprised what the world can give you. Everything that you do, no matter how good you have done that, still there will be some one criticizing your work. On the other hand, even you have messed up the work and have done a horrible job, yet, there are some praises for what you have done. Well, no need to dwell on the comments of others, be it good or bad, and do not fall in the trap of others' opinion, be yourself. Every effort you genuinely try your best and work for, sooner or later it will bear fruit.  At the end of the day, the flower will blossom, it is just a matter of time. Every solid step we take, moving forward, surely it will bring us to a greater height in our life. just a matter of how long it will take. Always have a grateful heart and appreciate what we have, for our hard work and efforts, you will know at the end of the day, what a surprise the world has for you. #Dailywisdom.

 It is no necessary to clarify fully on every incident. People may be shocked to learn of this, they will wonder why not? Well, sometimes it is better to keep some happening as it is instead of spilling out all the facts and making listeners worry and agitated. Not every incident and happening need to be explained clearly. What is more important is to take responsibility of what has happened , take action to diffuse the incident if there is something need to be done to diffuse it, and overcome any adverse situation, to change , think of your own self, and all the more think about others, think of the overall situation and take control. So in summary, you need to do the following: 1 take responsibility. 2. take action. 3. overcome obstacle. 4. change. 5. think of your own self. 6. think of what others and how they feel, 7. take control of the situation. 8. make it a rule to monitor it. as mentioned in yesterday post, do not blame on what happened, take responsibility. This is a real...

 Grumbling will not solve any problem, face the truth and tackle it head on will bring hope. If a person faces some failures and challenges, will develop negative emotion, all these as a result of grumbling when face with failures and obstacles. Negative energy will develop and spread if left unchecked, and the problem will not go away the more you grumble and blaming on everything except take a reflection and make necessary rectification. We notice, every time when a person grumble, he will blame everything under the sun. it is just a way to have excuses and refusing to accept the fact that he needs to change and be more positive. If he chooses to continue grumbling, it is tantamount to accept the fact that he has decided to give up his development as a mature human, and moving forward and grow up to be a useful person. Stop grumbling and take stock of your life, forgo the disappointment and dissatisfaction. Go ahead to look for new objective in life and pursue your goal with rene...

 If you do not dare to try, you will forever not be successful. A lot of times, people do not dare to try and analyze too much. In golfing term, players like to say over analysis becomes paralyzed.  most of the time, if a golfer overanalyze before he hits a shot, he will have more doubt in his mind and the result is, he is paralyzed and does not know how to execute a simple shot. Likewise, if you are in your current stage of getting no way, it is because you have too much doubt in everything. If you do not even dare to try out, forever you will not be able to be successful in anything at all. I am not advocating you gamble, I am just saying at least you take a shot and see how it turns out. For any business opportunity, when every one else is still doubting the feasibility of the business, you have already taken actions. By the time others are taking action, you are seeing money coming into your pocket. By the time others are making money on the business, you are already very ...

  Just do your best in everything you are doing. Everyone heard of this phrase, be it from your parents, your teachers, your masters, your friends, or even from your boss. Sound very encouraging and inspiring especially from your parents when you are facing important examinations and you have not prepared yourself well. As from your boss? will you take his word on face value?  That depends on what types of bosses you have, some understanding boss will encourage you, some who likes to assign you some near impossible tasks, will say it with sarcasm. Sometimes, late at night, when you are alone, you may sit down and reflect what you are going through and cast some doubts on yourself. That is the time you may reflect on this phrase - have you tried your best in whatever you are doing? Forget about what you have missed and lost, and appreciate what you have now and at the moment. Whatever will be will be, whatever is going to happen will happen. Everything happens for a reason, no ...

 Be A Worthy Person Rather Than A Wealthy Person. People nowadays focus too much on wealth and neglect the human value of wisdom. There are too many whose mind only focus on wealth and money, and because of that, their character and moral value leave much to be desired. Because of over obsess with money, the greed takes over the mind and as a result of which, some will try to gain as much  wealth as possible , totally disregard how the wealth is being accumulated. When a person grows and develop his character, the moral integrity is utmost important. However, how do we cultivate this moral compass and be a useful person, rich in integrity and wisdom? instead of obsessed with money and overcame by greed? Having a good heart and inner peace is much better, making money along the way is just a side product of richness. A person's growth is more important than making money, maturity of a person is better than the success in making money. What is the use if a person is successful i...