Daily Wisdom 76 - Do Not Gossip About Others

 Do not gossip about others especially on their business and other matters.

in this world, we tend to talk about others especially on things done by others, 

Whenever we meet other friends, we tend to talk or rather gossip about what are going on , especially on those matters which do not concern us at all.

Do Not Gossip, this is easier say than done.

whenever we meet friends, we bound to talk about matters especially on what is going on with our circle of friends or others.

almost everyday, we talk about others and things concerning them, likewise , others may also talk about us.

is this healthy? is this the right way to live our life?

Even though we may not say it out, but deep in our heart, we may say something about certain people on certain things, .

Right or wrong, it is about whether you are right , I am wrong or vice versa..

In Buddhism, for those who practice Buddhism, we should not deal with this with the ordinary people, to be the judge, executioner or a referee to decide who is right or wrong.

Everything happens for a reason, there is no right or wrong, it all depends on the view and perception of a person, what is white to you may be grey to another.
So for those who practice Buddhism, you may want to look at from a higher moral ground and do not be so judgmental and embracing every one.

if in our heart, we like to form an opinion of right and wrong, and gossip about it, we will listen to gossip, and gossip about it, and worse, spread the rumor and compare it with others.

if in our heart, we do not like to gossip and always keep a clear and neutral mind, we  will not fall to gossiping, and spread it, whatever we hear, stop at our end.

therefore, how do we stop all the gossiping?

first we need to make sure whatever we hear, it stops at our end, and we will not talk about it with others, better still following this approach whenever people want to talk to you about some one else.

Ask him or her the followings:

1. is it life and death matter?

2. does it concern me?

3. does it affect me?

4. does it involve me?

if all the above is NO, then, we tell the person, sorry I am not interested to know about it.

After all you know you only live once, so why do we want to get involved in all those gossiping?

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